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How to Find Support, Heal After Disasters

Soldier hugging his wife
U.S. Army photo by Sgt. LaToya Nemes

The recent Colorado floods and tragic incident that took place at the Navy Yard in Washington, D.C., Sept. 16, will undoubtedly affect many of us in some way and for some time. To help with the challenging days ahead, we’re revisiting this blog post by Dr. Vladimir Nacev that offers tips for coping after a tragedy or disaster — personalize the tips to work for you and share them with others who could also benefit. We also encourage you to review the resources at the end of this post for additional support.

Exposure to natural disasters — hurricanes, tornadoes, floods, fires — and manmade disasters — shootings, workplace violence and war — may place a tremendous burden on our resilience, self-esteem and ability to survive a disaster.

Psychology provides us with an understanding of how we might cope with some of these feelings. For example, it’s normal to experience a wide range of emotional, behavioral and psychological reactions to trauma. Feelings of helplessness, anger, fear and sadness are expected, and allowing yourself to experience these feelings is necessary for healing. Over time, these feelings will begin to fade, but keep in mind grieving is a process that may take months or a year, or more, to work through. It isn’t something that can be rushed. However, there are things you and your loved ones can do to encourage healing:

Connect with others. It’s important to seek comfort and support during this tough time. Check in with family members and friends to let them know you’re OK — expressing your feelings to those close to you can facilitate your recovery and strengthen your resilience. Take advantage of a support or activity group — they help cultivate a sense of belonging. Connecting with others reaffirms that we’re not alone in our struggles.

Think and act positively. No doubt disasters and negative experiences are stressful and can leave us feeling pretty low. But, research suggests that even negative and painful experiences can lead to positive change. It’s referred to as post-traumatic growth or more commonly, the “silver lining” in a bad situation. The intent of focusing on post-traumatic growth isn’t to minimize the impact of the disaster or emotional pain from it, but to refocus our attention to look for positive outcomes.

We all have strengths and coping skills to call on in difficult times — it helps to remind ourselves of this. One way to reclaim your sense of power or feel stronger is by helping others — try providing comfort to someone else or volunteering your time.

Stay informed. Lack of knowledge and information leads to more anxiety followed by a greater sense of helplessness and increased frustration. Although we cannot solve everything or improve things instantly, staying informed and gathering information about an event helps us cope and strengthens our resilience. However, protect yourself and your loved ones from unnecessary and excessive exposure to news about the trauma and reminders of the event.

Establish some normalcy. Getting back to our normal routine as much as possible or establishing a “new normal” helps to minimize traumatic stress, anxiety and hopelessness. It gives us a sense of control, even when faced with great odds. To the extent possible, keep occupied with regular activities — read, watch a movie, cook or play with your kids —so you’re not dedicating all your energy and attention to the traumatic event.

Everyone has different needs and ways of coping. It’s important to recognize that, although we cannot control what happened, we can control our response. Keep these tips in mind to help minimize the impact of a traumatic event on your emotional and psychological health.


Comments (1)

  • Bradford 17 Sep

    It would be much easier to "heal" from, and "cope" with, these "disasters," if they weren't all so over-hyped by the media. Rather than a slew of later-retracted "breaking news" stories told in "trauma-voice," why not wait until more confirmed facts are known, then do a more measured, nuanced, and accurate story. Much of the "PTSD" trauma in MANUFACTURED CRISIS...

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