Valentine’s Day is known for cards, chocolates, flowers and sweet affirmations. But if you’re a member of the military — or loved one of a service member — the holiday can bring a mix of emotions. Some relationships face the obstacles of military life, while others face deployment. Some people have no romantic relationship. No matter what your status is, there’s a relationship resource available for you.
The life of a service member is hectic at times and maintaining relationships can get difficult. Taking time to celebrate your love on Valentine’s Day can help keep your significant other’s heart close and your relationship resilient. These resources can help you keep your relationship and communication strong throughout the year:
- Find fun activities: Positive Activity Jackpot mobile app from the National Center for Telehealth and Technology will help you find something fun for you and your date to do in your area.
- Pay attention to your relationship: Military OneSource has a section devoted to relationships on its website. Start by reading “Tips to Help Keep Your Relationship Strong” for helpful relationship pointers.
- Check your status: Improve intimacy in your relationship by taking an honest assessment. AfterDeployment shares ways to assess, and resources to help, in this blog post, “Who Will Be Your Valentine?”
Deployed Service Members
Physical separation can take a toll on any relationship. Thankfully, technology has made it much easier for deployed service members to stay connected to loved ones. However, maintaining positive interactions is necessary. Here are some resources to help you overcome missing those close to you:
- Stay connected: Social media is a great tool to stay connected while apart. This Valentine’s Day, set up a Skype date or share your favorite photo as a couple on Facebook.
- Get resources: Real Warriors offers ways to maintain strong and healthy relationships with loved ones throughout the deployment cycle.
- Download Virtual Hope Box: Take photos and songs that remind you of your loved one on the go. Store them in one easy place when you download the Virtual Hope Box mobile app.
Single Service Members
Valentine’s Day can feel particularly lonely for those who don’t have a significant other. But, the holiday doesn’t have to be a day all about couples. The relationships you have with your friends and family members — and with yourself — are just as important.
- Build a strong support network: Learn about support and resources to help you strengthen and expand your personal support network.
- Relax: Take this opportunity to rest. Mobile apps can help you relax!
- Get resources: Military OneSource has a section devoted to single life. Find articles on discounted activities, group exercise and more.
Honoring Loved Ones
This holiday can be emotional for someone who has lost a loved one. You may feel all alone or like you want to hide and scream. There are other ways to cope with the grief of losing a loved one. Here are three to get you started:
- Know that you’re not alone: The Tragedy Assistance Program for Survivors shares stories from those who have lost beloved members of the military.
- Honor your loved one: Celebrating a person's memory can help ease pain and bring some joy to temper sorrow. There are many ways to honor a loved one; this article highlights five special ways.
- Beat social isolation: You may feel like you want to hide from the world on Feb. 14, but hiding can actually make many feelings worse. Learn more about social isolation and ways to overcome.